I’ve been looking forward to this day ever since Julie and I found out what we would be doing at Alzheimer’s Day Services (ADS). ADS is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving individuals with dementia and their families. Each new guest is referred to as a “friend” and they spend time at ADS anywhere from a few days a week to every weekday. Not only does it give caregivers an opportunity to continue working and take a break from caregiving duties, but it’s also a stimulating environment for each friend. Activities are meant to keep their brains and bodies active, and provide a safe and fun place to spend the day.
Today, ADS had their “Senior Prom” and we had the honor of helping to set up and participating in the event. Upon arrival, we were greeted by the enthusiastic receptionist, Tanya, adorned with sash and tiara. We then met the Development Director, Jon Burchfield, who was sporting a classy suit and bowtie. By this point we knew we were going to have a fabulous day. Jon gave us a mini orientation where he discussed how the facility operates, what all they offer for individuals with dementia and their families, and how to respond appropriately to each of our new friends. He then proceeded to give us a tour of the building and introduced us to all the staff. Julie and I were very impressed by how much thought had been given to the arrangement of their facility: fun artwork on the walls, areas for activities, a learning kitchen, a quiet room, a beautiful courtyard, a row of lazy boy chairs for relaxing…they had it all.
Our first task was to help with decorations for Prom. We blew up balloons and attached them to strings to hang on the walls; then cut out white paper squares to act as tablecloths. Once lunch was cleaned up, Julie went around the room and helped spice up the tables with tissue paper flowers. The Activities Director, Norrell, had his microphone and speakers set up, ready to kick off the event. Not only was the room set, but each friend was prepared for the fun too! All the women were wearing tiaras and most men had on a suit (SO cute). Once they were guided to the decorated tables for a seat it was time to for Prom to begin! A few volunteers sang songs before Norrell invited guests to come up and dance. I was honestly surprised that some of the guests voluntarily got up to dance! For individuals impacted by the unfortunate realities of dementia, it amazed me that some of the guests could dance like they really were at their high school prom. It had to be one of the cutest things I’ve ever seen. But what really warmed my heart was the announcement of the Prom King and Queen. Norrell requested a drumroll as his reached his hand into the hat of names. The man announced for Prom King had the most priceless face when he heard his name called. You would have thought he just won the lottery. He was overcome by so much joy and honor that it brought him to tears. He just kept saying “Wow! Oh my goodness! Me? Really! Wow!” Every staff and volunteer was touched by his reaction and I definitely got tears in my eyes. When the Prom Queen was announced, a similar reaction ensued. At first I don’t think she understood that she had just been named PROM QUEEN. But after a few staff reiterated “You won! You’re the winner! You’re prom queen!”…she cried too! It was the sweetest moment I have seen in a long time. There they were, the new prom king and queen, with their sashes and crowns, wiping tears from their eyes. So adorable. We stayed for a few more songs, passed out refreshments, visited with our new friends, then our volunteer shift was over.
The Alzheimers Day Center is such a wonderful place for loved ones with dementia. I know how stressful it has been for my mom ever since my grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, and I realize how important places like ADS are not only for the caregiver but also for loved ones. It’s important for the caregiver to be able to resume his or her life in the workplace or to receive a break from caregiving responsibilities a few times a week, but it’s also important that the loved one is in an environment where every ounce of their brain is being stimulated. At ADS, there are a variety of activities offered for their guests: cooking classes, exercise, bingo, singing, art, and MORE. Every activity works the brain and helps to slow the memory loss process involved with dementia.
I had such a fulfilling day at ADS and definitely plan to return with friends in the future.
What I learned about myself today: The simplest things in life can bring so much joy. My new friends are an amazing inspiration and reminder about how the little things in life can mean so much.